Your relationship started out great. Somewhere along the way, that spark was lost.
You love each other. That has been clear from the beginning of your marriage or relationship. As a couple, you've experienced a lot. You want your marriage or relationship to last. You just need some help overcoming your relationship concerns.
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Couples counseling can provide you with the therapy you need to make your relationship last.
Marriage and Couples Counseling Can Reignite that Spark
As a couples therapist, I can help you resolve those conflicts holding you back as a couple.
Your relationship was probably easy at the beginning. You never considered you would need couples therapy. You want to feel the way you did at the beginning. You're thinking that maybe a relationship therapist can help.
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The good news is, relationship counseling, also known as couples counseling or marriage counseling, can help you overcome the conflicts or challenges your relationship is facing. You don't have to stay the same and neither does your relationship and marriage. Marriage therapy is the next step to having the relationship you want.
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As a marriage and couples therapist, I enjoy working with couples to explore ways they can improve their relationships and continue to excel in the areas they already do. Marriage and family counseling provides a space where even a high conflict couple can learn to make things work.
How To Know If You Need Couples Therapy
There are many reasons for couples to need marriage and couples counseling.
As a marriage and couples counselor, I have seen couples come in for therapy for many different concerns. Everyone relationship is unique, so it is no surprise that the need for marriage therapy can look different in different couples. As I have provided couples therapy there are some common relationship concerns I have seen in couples counseling sessions. Here are some of the common marriage and couple relationship concerns I have seen in couples counseling.
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Poor Communication. I feel like a broken record writing this. This is the number one conflict that walks into my couples counseling office. There are four communication styles you should watch out for. Check them out below.
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Boundary Setting. Hand in hand with communication is setting healthy boundaries. Couples who struggle with boundaries end up needing couples counseling.
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Trust. This conflict can appear in different ways. Breaking promises, lack of follow through, infidelity, and even pornography use all land in this category. Couples who struggle with trust end up in couples counseling.
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These are only some of the problems that lead to needing couples counseling. To learn more about reasons to start couples therapy, check out this blog post I wrote.
4 Communication Problems
Dr. John Gottman emphasizes what he calls "the four horsemen of the apocalypse" regarding communication. These are four ways of communicating that can indicate a relationship will end.
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Criticism - when one member of a couple attacks the character of the other.
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Contempt - when one or both members are down right mean to the other.
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Defensiveness - in response to criticism, excuses and playing the victim is used to avoid responsibility.
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Stonewalling - this is another way of saying shutting down or just not engaging anymore.
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These aren't the only ways to communicate poorly. These also don't necessarily mean a relationship will end as long as things change. To learn more about the Gottman's philosophy regarding communication, check out this webpage.
What Marriage and Couples Counseling is like with Me
My goal as a marriage and couples counselor is to be the top marriage therapist and couples therapist in Pocatello. To do this, I am committed to helping couples improve their relationships through couples therapy.
You are ready for your relationship to get back on track with couples counseling. Whether you're looking for marriage therapy or couples therapy, taking that step will bring you that much closer to enjoying the relationship you deserve.
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As a marriage and couples therapist I start marriage therapy or couples therapy with a session of getting to know your relationship's background. We explore in this couples counseling session what each of you think and feel about the identified problems.
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The next step in the marriage and couples counseling process is to look at the "why." We work as a team to identify what the root causes for the relationship discord are. My role as the couples counselor is to provide an objective perspective on what is shared and on what takes place in marriage therapy and couples therapy sessions. Then we can start to implement skills in our couples counseling sessions.
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What is Holding You Back From Marriage and Couples Counseling?
Seeing a couples therapist for marriage therapy or couples therapy can feel intimidating. Don't let that fear hold you back from becoming the couple you want to through marriage and couples counseling.
Picture your relationship in 6 months. Do you see the two of you feeling closer with fewer major conflicts? Is what you're doing now going to get you to where you want to be? Don't let fear of couples counseling hold you back! See if marriage and couples therapy with me at Ridgeline Counseling could benefit you.
Start Marriage and Couples Counseling in Pocatello
You want to feel the love in your relationship again. You have fought with each other for so long you can't even remember what it was like to get along. Well, you're in luck! As a couples counselor, I can help you regain that closeness through marital counseling and couples counseling. I offer in person marriage and couples counseling in Pocatello Idaho. I also offer couples counseling through online counseling anywhere in the state of Idaho. When you are ready to begin your marriage and couples counseling journey, follow these three steps:
Step 1:
Reach out to
Ridgeline Counseling
Step 2:
Meet for a Couples Therapy Consultation
Step 3:
Begin Feeling Close as a Couple Again
I have multiple ways to be contacted. You can call, email, text, or request an appointment through my client portal. We will then set a time to meet for your initial consultation either over the phone, video, or in person.
I understand how important it is to find a counselor you are comfortable with. So, I offer a free 15 minute consultation where you can ask any questions you may have. This is your chance to see if we're a good fit.
Together, we will develop a plan in couples counseling to address your relationship concerns. I try to tailor treatment to your individual needs, my experience as a couples therapist, and what I know helps couples.
Not Quite Ready to Start Couples Therapy?
Check out these blog posts about marriage and relationships, marriage and couples counseling, and common marriage and couples relationship issues.
Marriage and couples counseling is one of my specialties. As a result, I enjoy sharing information about marriage and relationships, what marriage and couple conflicts can look like, and how marriage therapy can be useful. Browse these blog posts I've written to find some helpful information about marriage and couples counseling and therapy.
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Blog post 1
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Blog post 2
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Blog post 3
Other Mental Health Services at Ridgeline Counseling
Anxiety treatment isn't the only service I offer. Life is hard and we rarely experience one problem at a time. I work with a variety of mental health concerns. At Ridgeline Counseling in Pocatello, I also offer depression counseling, anxiety therapy, bi-polar disorder counseling, borderline personality disorder therapy, trauma therapy and PTSD treatment, and more! I am here to help.